Getting Through Tough Times

by Michelle on July 5, 2011

in Balancing Life

tough times

I read an article once that said life is like an ocean. “The waves may be very calm one day and the next day there may be a storm.”

H0wever, I believe life is more like seasons. 

I’m a New Yorker, born and bred.  New York weather is composed of seasons.  It doesn’t get hot one day and then cold and snowing the next.  It’s a gradual change.

Problems don’t just rear their ugly heads.  It’s usually progressive. Maybe it’s a result of poor choices (not always yours). Whatever the case, tough times can be overcome.

How to Handle Tough Times

Of course, nobody can really tell you how to handle tough times. Each situation is unique as the personality of the person experiencing it.

What I can offer you is a few ideas that you can try when times get tough.  What works for one may not work for someone else but here’s what has been helpful for me:

  1. Count your blessings. When times are tough, that’s the time to take stock of everything that is good and “stable” in your life. It’s time to look back on the things that could have happened but for the grace of God didn’t.
  2. Pray. As a Christian, I know that there is no better help for tough times than to turn to the Creator of the Universe. He has the answer for any situation you may face.
  3. Make a list of all the problems that you are facing. Divide that list in small problems and big problems. Look at the list again and find out which problems can be pushed out of priority for the time being. Find out the problems that must be tackled. Begin with small problems from that list. As you solve one after another problem, you will see your confidence growing.  (I saw this idea somewhere else but have yet to try it as the first 2 are working just fine).
  4. Take time for yourself. Sometimes the best thing to get through tough times is to make yourself a priority. Taking time out to pamper yourself may be all you need to gain clearer thinking to tackle your troubles.

Regardless of the trouble you are facing (financial, health, etc.), there is an expiration date for your trouble. While they can be discouraging, you must not crawl into a hole feeling like you will die.

Tackle your problems with one of the ideas listed above.  It’s your steadfast resolve to make it through that will bring you through.

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Evelyn July 5, 2011 at 1:55 pm

Hi Michelle,

I appreciate this post. I find it very helpful, because sometimes, I feel like I just can’t make it and that I am all alone with dealing with my child who has Trisomy 21. After reading your post, I know that I am not alone, because as long as I can pray, I can make it. ;)

*I love the point about counting your blessings. It so many times I focus on what is not and not look at what is.

Thank you so much and many blessings!

Evelyn Parham


Michelle July 5, 2011 at 2:31 pm

Hi Evelyn- You know us special needs moms must stick together and encourage each other. Just when you think you can’t go on, remember: Your troubles have an expiration date. My pastor said this once and it’s stuck with me ever since.


Elizabeth July 8, 2011 at 1:55 pm

It’s been found that caregivers are actually more likely to have mental and health problems, as they’re so busy taking care of others they don’t have time for themselves. I think your list is a good one to keep in mind, as well as the fact that caregivers matter too, take care of yourself!!


Michelle July 8, 2011 at 5:29 pm

You’re right Elizabeth. Caregivers need to balance their responsibilities with taking time to care for themselves too. I make time for myself by simply getting away every now and then to just do me.


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